Loyalty

 

Why is Loyalty Important?

Loyalty is important in a lot of ways. In leadership or government, being loyal to a leader will produce a better society because there is no betrayal that happens. When each member of the society is loyal to the leader, it’s easier to impose rules and regulations. The leader can trust his subordinates so he can then achieve his goals for the country without any failure.

In a relationship, loyalty is also needed because it creates commitment and dedication to someone you care for. If you have loyalty to your loved ones, there will be trust and respect. A relationship to last longer needs a partner who takes a stand for somebody they believe in. In friendship, loyalty is also needed because you can always count on that person once he is loyal. Whenever you have problems in life and struggle to encounter, you are assured that there is somebody to turn to for comfort.

Loyalty is also important in any business. Customer loyalty helps in building satisfaction and trust toward your service and products. When customers are loyal to your business, there will be an assurance that these customers will patronize your products, thus increasing your sale and avoiding bankruptcy.

Loyalty is one virtue that people find difficult to achieve. It needs an investment in time and feelings. You can’t be loyal to someone or something if you think they will not do well to you. If you think you will be happy with somebody, then there is a need to sacrifice to strengthen a relationship. That sacrifice will usually involve giving your utmost loyalty to the person you care for.

Loyalty is one value that every individual should possess. When we are loyal to something or someone, our world will be a better place to live in more peaceful and organized.

Loyalty is one of the traits that people generally say is important to them in relationships, be it romantic, friendship, business, or otherwise. Yet some of us don’t make it a priority or give that quality enough credit. Here are some reasons why staying true and sticking by the people and things you care about is the best thing you can do for yourself, and those you care about.

 

1. It’s less messy than constantly switching sides. There are enough things to cleanup in life, so making a mess while you go just isn’t necessary.

 

2. It earns you good karma. Is karma real? Who knows, but it might be safer to assume that it is.

 

3. You can be a loyal girl without being a “good” girl. You can be a sassy or as freaky as you want in your relationships but stay loyal and you’ll just feel like trouble instead of actually causing damage.

 

4. You’ll form deeper connections. Loyalty leads to feelings of security, which leads to better communication and deeper bonds.

 

5. You have to be loyal to yourself, too. Loyal to your emotions, beliefs, needs responsibilities, health…

 

6. You won’t get passed up for work opportunities. You can be great at a job, but if you aren’t accountable or you have a reputation for screwing people over, it’s much harder to grow and be rewarded for your work.

 

7. One disloyal act can ruin years of loyalty. Might as well keep the good thing going.

 

8. You can be loyal but still have boundaries. Being loyal doesn’t mean you have to put up with bullshit in life; it means you give people an opportunity to show you their true colors and then you make decisions that work for you.

 

9. You’ll be quicker to act when it comes to doing the right thing. If you’re feeling the urge to cheat but just morally can’t allow yourself to do so, then you end a relationship before you cheat and simplify the whole thing for everyone.

 

10. People won’t be out to get you. No ‘eye for an eye’ plans are put into place if you don’t do something shady in the first place.

 

11. It doesn’t make you a badass to be mean. Enough said.

 

12. You’ll have real relationships. It’s much harder to stay with someone who you know you shouldn’t be with when loyalty is a top priority. Things get real when you’re accountable.

 

13. Guilt hurts like a bitch. Is there a worse feeling than knowing that you could have avoided hurting someone you care about?

 

14. You’re more likely to be treated with loyalty, as well. If you’re loyal, most people will be loyal right back.

 

15. Your exes won’t be able to say bad things about you. Well, okay, maybe there are a couple bad things they could say about you, but won’t be that you’re a cheater.

 

16. You’ll have more friends. Disloyal people tend to blow people off when they make new friends, but if you’re loyal, you can just keep adding friends. Much more reasonable.

 

17. People will remember it. In the short term, hustling around for the best opportunities can be tempting, but in the long term people keep around trustworthy and stable people above all else.

 

18. Your power will come from respect. Not from your ability to swindle and play games.

 

19. Loyalty lets people know that they’re wanted in your life. There is less pressure to try to make romantic relationships and friendships work when people inherently know that they’re working.

 

If loyalty is one of your principles, that means that if you’re not loyal to your friends, you’re not loyal to yourself. Betraying a friend would be breaking your principles and therefore becomes betraying yourself. If you are strong, committed and for real with it, you won’t let this happen.

When you consider loyalty a priority you will notice you won’t make as much “friends” because you and others know that when you get into it; you commit to it.

“Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant.” – Socrates.

In my opinion to be loyal to yourself (and thus to everyone you decide to be loyal to), it all boils down to ‘keepin’ it real’.

“Keeping it real means keeping it real to you, not what’s real to everybody else. If you wanna be a doctor and you go on to become a doctor, then that’s keeping it real”

Loyalty in the personal realm, which comes out of love, devotion, dedication and commitment to the wellbeing of another, is healthy. Yet, at times, people are not aware of all the aspects of loyalty within a relationship.

No marital contract spells out, or even defines loyalty. Yet, both partners assume that this commitment will be honored. Loyalty does not only mean physical fidelity it includes emotional devotion.
Being loyal in every aspect of a couple’s life has many manifestations. . Here are some ways in which loyalty is expressed in love:

1. Being loyal means being respectful of your partners’ weaknesses and discretely helping them compensate for those weaknesses. For example, if your mate is absent minded and loses her keys often, you may help her set a system to make it easier for her to find things and help her search, when needed, without anger or shaming.
2. Being loyal means never saying anything that may shame your mate in private or public. “Well, she told someone she was sick, when she didn’t feel like entertaining.” Though this is a small offense, when it is revealed to others, it is shaming and disloyal.
3. Being loyal means keeping confidences, without fail. Any information that is private, or labeled as secret must be vigilantly guarded as such. Telling “just one other person” means it will be told to one person at a time. If it is your partner’s secret, it may not be shared with ANYONE.
4. Being loyal means siding with your partner, even when you think he or she may be partially at fault. When your mate tells you about difficulties at work with a colleague or supervisor, it is imperative that you affirm your mate’s frustrations, empathize with his feelings and refrain from saying: “Your boss just wants you to work harder.” That assumption may be made later, not at a time of emotional difficulty for your mate.
5. Being loyal means reassuring your partner that you will be there emotionally and physically, whenever you are needed and following through with this promise. Your presence, helpful action and kind words are important signs of trust and security for your mate in the relationship. Many spouses hold resentments about their mates not being there at crisis points in their lives. These resentments can be avoided with conscious loyal behaviors.
6. Being loyal means not speaking disparagingly about your spouse to others. You may share YOUR frustrations with a close confidant without blaming your spouse. “I feel so frustrated when he comes home and is too tired to help with the kids homework or dinner.” This is complaining without denigrating the mate.
7. Being loyal means that when others say less than positive comments about your mate, you abstain from joining them in discounting your partner. Even if their grudge bears some truth, it is incumbent upon you as a loyal mate, to defend your partner’s actions and present him in a more favorable light.
8. Being loyal means keeping your partner’s needs as primary over all other peoples’ needs. Any obligation or commitment to other people has to be assessed in importance, once your mate requires your attention. It does not mean that your parents do not get your attention until all your spouse’s needs are satisfied. It means that the spouse gets first priority in all-important or urgent matters.
9. Being loyal means keeping your word, being truthful and reliable in keeping your promises to your mate. Not honoring your word discredits you and disappoints your mate.
10. Being loyal means accommodating your mate- even when it not a choice activity for you. If your partner needs you to be present to help her with her volunteer party, your loyalty will aid you in rescheduling your previously planned recreational activity. If your spouse wants you to attend his business meeting, which is less than thrilling for you, you do it with grace.

Choosing to be loyal in attitude, actions and words is a personal decision. Being truly loyal is very hard. Yet, no other way works for truly intimate and loving couples.

“Real loyalty is a choice and it starts from within”

Kyla Madjad